Are you getting Married for the wrong reasons? Here are 4 Clues to Determine If You Are

Fear of Being Alone

You think you are running out of time, and your dreams of having a family seems far in the distance. Perhaps you were in a promising relationship, but everything went left and now you have to start over AGAIN. During the holidays you find yourself lonely and wanting to commit to someone. If this is your thought process, then let me tell you…we are in a new era sis. Getting married in your mid to late 30s is now the new 20s. Don’t rush the process. Don’t settle for the counterfeit man because you’re impatient to wait on your Kingdom Man.

Family Pressure

We all have at least one family member that is always asking when are you getting married, and when are you going to have a baby. Let’s be clear, being married is amazing, however it is not the end of the world if you are not. Unfortunately, people associate being married and having kids with happiness. True happiness comes from within. So when you are at the next family function and your aunts and cousins ask you when you are getting married, tell them “when you stop asking me. Respectively.”

Securing the “Bag”

In your eyes this man can provide for you completely, and you will be financially set forever. He is courting you in all the right ways, you guys are flying out of the country, and the purses and shoes he buys for you are unmatched. Here’s the thing, securing the bag, but not securing the man, will leave you rich and lonely.

Sexual Desires

Do you fall into the category of wanting to live a life that is pleasing to God, but you also have sexual urges? You luhh God, but you want to take it to the next level with your significant other. Well, if you are a church girl like me when I was single, you are convicted for having sexual thoughts. The scripture “it’s better to marry than to burn” really resonate with you, so instead of having sex before marriage, you would rather jump into a marriage, and do it the “right way.” If this is your thought process, sis you are getting married for the wrong reason. Don’t do it. Yes, married sex is amazing, but it takes way more than sex to make a relationship work. You are Worth the Wait regardless of what your man says, or regardless of what society says.